There is an excellent clip of Richard Bandler demonstrating his "Spinning" technique for phobia removal on Google Video.
Recommended viewing.
Sunday, August 12, 2007
Wednesday, August 8, 2007
Flying in a spin
W, a 30something male, had been suffering for a long time with a terrible phobia of flying.
He had visited 2 hypnotherapists and an NLP practitioner to try and fix it.
Before I met W, I had some email correspondence and was having some great internal dialog with myself about what method I might use. When I came to meet him, however, I dropped everything that I had been thinking about and switched to something else.
You see, I did something that I had been taught very early on in NLP, something that many therapists forget to do. I watched and I listened.
As soon as W started talking about the feelings in his stomach, I know what to do and started into the spinning technique developed by Richard Bandler (see Paul McKenna's explanation on the Sky website). It worked! A couple of other aspects threw up, and I used some 3D-mind to get to those, but essentially spinning feelings killed a lifelong fear.
He had visited 2 hypnotherapists and an NLP practitioner to try and fix it.
Before I met W, I had some email correspondence and was having some great internal dialog with myself about what method I might use. When I came to meet him, however, I dropped everything that I had been thinking about and switched to something else.
You see, I did something that I had been taught very early on in NLP, something that many therapists forget to do. I watched and I listened.
As soon as W started talking about the feelings in his stomach, I know what to do and started into the spinning technique developed by Richard Bandler (see Paul McKenna's explanation on the Sky website). It worked! A couple of other aspects threw up, and I used some 3D-mind to get to those, but essentially spinning feelings killed a lifelong fear.
Speaking your mind
P, a mid-30s female, came to me with a not-unusual problem. In fact, psychologists say that it is the number 1 fear in the population.
"I have no problems giving briefings to my team", she told me, "but when I have to give briefings to the upper management team, it just feels terrible. I shake and mumble. I just go to pieces and want a hole to open and swallow me."
Yes, it is our friend, the Fear of Public Speaking. Funnily enough, people can have no problem talking to a small team of, say, 5 people, or regale the members of the golf club with a good joke, but put them in certain situations, with a certain number of people, and they go to jelly.
In this case, a couple of rounds of EFT and all is clear. Next briefing, no problems.
"I have no problems giving briefings to my team", she told me, "but when I have to give briefings to the upper management team, it just feels terrible. I shake and mumble. I just go to pieces and want a hole to open and swallow me."
Yes, it is our friend, the Fear of Public Speaking. Funnily enough, people can have no problem talking to a small team of, say, 5 people, or regale the members of the golf club with a good joke, but put them in certain situations, with a certain number of people, and they go to jelly.
In this case, a couple of rounds of EFT and all is clear. Next briefing, no problems.
Just plane uncomfortable
P, a mid-30s male, had been flying for work for many years as well as spending many family vacations abroad. His flying included many flights from 1 hour local hops to trans-atlantic and trans-continental. So, what was the problem.
"More and more, as I take each flight, I get more and more uncomfortable", he said. "It has started to get to a stage where I just don't want to fly anymore". This was an extra problem because he was due to fly out to visit his sister the next day.
A couple of rounds of EFT (using "Tearless Trauma") and he had nothing left. It was all gone. Off he went on vacation the next day with no problems.
Another satisfied customer.
"More and more, as I take each flight, I get more and more uncomfortable", he said. "It has started to get to a stage where I just don't want to fly anymore". This was an extra problem because he was due to fly out to visit his sister the next day.
A couple of rounds of EFT (using "Tearless Trauma") and he had nothing left. It was all gone. Off he went on vacation the next day with no problems.
Another satisfied customer.
Fear of the dark
S, a late 20s male, had suffered from a long term fear.
"I can't sleep without either a light on or the TV left on", he told me. "I just can't bear the dark".
Now, I could have chosen to have S spend 20 sessions with me trying to recall the moment in his childhood when his father locked him in a cupboard for a minor discretion thus causing lifelong misery. I didn't. Instead, I applied EFT. 3 rounds and his SUD level had reduced from 10 to 0.
The best part was that we were able to test immediately. S was able to go into a room and turn out the light. No fear! As with many fear eliminations, what had been terror before was replaced with a sense of curiosity - both can't exist together.
"I can't sleep without either a light on or the TV left on", he told me. "I just can't bear the dark".
Now, I could have chosen to have S spend 20 sessions with me trying to recall the moment in his childhood when his father locked him in a cupboard for a minor discretion thus causing lifelong misery. I didn't. Instead, I applied EFT. 3 rounds and his SUD level had reduced from 10 to 0.
The best part was that we were able to test immediately. S was able to go into a room and turn out the light. No fear! As with many fear eliminations, what had been terror before was replaced with a sense of curiosity - both can't exist together.
My First Elimination - Spiders
J is a 30something female who had a terrible phobias of spiders. Having recently completed certification in Robert Shields Fear Elimination Therapy, I thought that it would be a good idea to try it out.
"Tell me about it", I said.
"Its like a feeling of dread in my stomach", J replied. "If I see a spider, I can't move. I'm afraid that it will follow me. It's so bad that I can't even help my husband in the garden because I'm afraid that one might jump out on me."
So, I took her through the procedure. Having her relate the story while controlling her eye movements. After one round it was done.
"It's gone", she said.
"What do you mean", I asked.
"That feeling of dread, I don't feel anything now. This is great!"
Later that day, J walked into her bathroom to be met by a largish spider in her bathroom sink. No problem, no feeling of dread. Where previously she would be rooted to the spot, she was abel to calmly deal with the situation - or calmly call her husband to deal with it. She still doesn't like spiders or want to make any contact with them, but the "dread" is gone. Oh yeah, she's gardening now too.
"Tell me about it", I said.
"Its like a feeling of dread in my stomach", J replied. "If I see a spider, I can't move. I'm afraid that it will follow me. It's so bad that I can't even help my husband in the garden because I'm afraid that one might jump out on me."
So, I took her through the procedure. Having her relate the story while controlling her eye movements. After one round it was done.
"It's gone", she said.
"What do you mean", I asked.
"That feeling of dread, I don't feel anything now. This is great!"
Later that day, J walked into her bathroom to be met by a largish spider in her bathroom sink. No problem, no feeling of dread. Where previously she would be rooted to the spot, she was abel to calmly deal with the situation - or calmly call her husband to deal with it. She still doesn't like spiders or want to make any contact with them, but the "dread" is gone. Oh yeah, she's gardening now too.
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